GoodRock has left a new comment on your post "TRUE COLORS -- SAFETY":
I understand that "imbalance of power and authority", but I also know there are a lot of healthy relationships that did in fact begin in just such a situation, primarily between employer-employee and teacher-student.
I don't want to make an argument against any regulations, but is a blanket, rigid policy the only option when dealing with adults?
GOODROCK: Thanks for raising this issue. As I think about it, seems to me maybe the TC program rules are restrictive due to the nature of the program and the great variance in ages of participants, which do include some of middle school age, and up.
I can imagine care be taken not to give anyone grounds to attack the TC program and participants, accusing them using this as facilitating mixing and sexual contact.
Don't you think our society is so uptight on sex things what with the plethora of scandals, accusations real and imaginary, almost somewhat to the status of 'witch hunt'. Our legal system is such that laws to prevent/ward off sexual contacts between adults and minors. .. .correct me, but isn't everyone under the age of 18 a minor?
Once an adult is accused - -whether it is true or not -- he is finished!
His name/reputation is ruined; his career is ended. How often do we hear of people being proven innocent? Even so, it is rather common to hold "Where there is smoke there is fire." As someone said in group "Well, I read it in the Boston Globe. . .they wouldn't print it if it weren't true!" My reply to that. . ..BS ! And quel naivete' !
Let's move the musing beyond professional as in doctor - patient, lawyer - client, teacher - student, etc. . .I think it is possible for two people. . ..two adults of differing age spans. . . .to be in a loving relationship and to enjoy a happy life together. . . .if they can withstand the questioning raising of eyebrows, or that 'knowing' eye movement of insinuation. . . etc.
Isn't one of the problems we have to deal with and overcome the fact of two consenting adults being in a same-sex relationship? A lot of areas in our society do not approve. The fact that it is necessary to make laws to prevent hate crimes ""and discrimination is ample reminder that we do have an uphill journey.
I hope those of you who have experience, thoughts and ideas about the question Rock raises will take some time to share your experience, strength and hope so we "youngsters"...ahem. . . .can learn from you guys. Thanks very much.