I am borrowing this film TRICK from Gaytwogether.com and also UTube. I don't usually post videos but I thought this one might evoke some discussion, esp helpful to guys who often email me 'on the side' about how to meet gay guys, where to meet them, how do you do it?, etc. I am hoping some of you will be willing to share your own ideas of the Wheres? and HowTos?
There are a lot of guys -- of all ages -- who wish they could meet others, but hold back because of shyness. plain old fear, "fear of rejection and I will feel worse then I do now", "what if no one is interested in me?" and the like.
When the series QAF ran on Showtime I was not old enough to do any of that stuff. . . .like go to "Babylon" and all the stuff that went on there. I saw a lot of this series later on, when I was in college, on LOGO
I couldn't or wouldn't bring myself act like Gail Howard and the character namesake 'Justin'. . . at least not in public. LOL The club scene at home in Provincetown is similar, but a bit more subdued. . .but the thumpa-thumpa music is the same. . . .Like the night Peter got "up his nerve" to talk to me. . .while I was doing the "wall flower routine" by the deck overlooking the beach and the Bay. . . we had to move away from the dancing crowd so we could hear each other. . . .We were both nervous and I felt totally "wonderful" that this hunky guy, this beautiful guy wanted to talk with me, know me, hang out with me. . . . . .I've done that, too, but not as easily as this time seemed to be. . . .and the rest is our history. hehe. . . .
The main advice I can offer to anyone is this: If you want to meet other gay guys you must go where they are, where you are likely to meet and talk with other guys. Sitting home, alone, eating popcorn and watching NCIS or NCIS-LA isn;t going to get you into the 'scene' "where the boys are. . ."
Granted this flick is rather steroptypical. . . .etc etc, I bet a lot of us can identify with the "shy guy". . .
So. . . .what can we share with the "afraid" guys? "Reach out and help someone" by sharing your thoughts. If you don't quite feel free to post comments directly, email them to me firstname.lastname@example.org and I will post them without any names. OK?
Thanks. . . .. justin