Saturday, April 12, 2014

re-post from The Closet Professor. . . ..with permission, Thanks, 'Joe"

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Reductio ad Hitlerum


Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights advocates are part of a "radical homosexual movement" that mirrors elements of Nazi Germany, Rick Wiles is claiming.

As Right Wing Watch is reporting, the TruNews host blasted the LGBT community in a heated broadcast with Pastor Jeff Allen, who has previously evoked Nazi imagery while condemning gay rights.

"It's not an exaggeration to say 'homofascist' because the German Nazi Party was homosexual," Wiles said. "Hitler was a homosexual, the top Nazi leadership, all of them were homosexuals...they were creating a homosexual special race."

Wiles went on to note, "It wasn’t this thing about an Aryan race of white people, blue-eyed, blonde-haired, white people, Hitler was trying to create a race of super gay male soldiers ... It will end up in America just like it was in Germany, but it won’t be the Jews that will be slaughtered. It will be the Christians."

In February, Wiles' guest offered up similar sentiments.

"Many [LGBT rights advocates] really do console themselves with fantasies of their own Kristallnacht, in which Christians are euphemistically 'taken out of the way' as part of the 'gay'-stapo’s 'final solution' to the 'Christian problem,'"Allen wrote in an Op-Ed for Liberty Counsel attorney Matt Barber's website Barbwire.

Similarly, the American Family Association's Bryan Fischer referred to LGBT rights advocates as "Nazi stormtroopers" who are "totalitarian and repressive" in a 2013 broadcast.

Wiles' TruNews promotes itself on its website as "the world’s leading news source that reports, analyzes, and comments on global events and trends with a conservative, orthodox Christian worldview."

Comparison with Nazis is so overdone that there's even a name for it: Godwin's Law. In this case the more appropriate name might be the older dog Latin term Reductio ad Hitlerum, a term coined by conservative philosopher Leo Strauss in 1951. According to Strauss, the Reductio ad Hitlerum is an informal fallacy that consists of trying to refute an opponent's view by comparing it to a view that would be held by Adolf Hitler or the Nazi Party.  According to Strauss, Reductio ad Hitlerum is a form of ad hominem or ad misericordiam, a fallacy of irrelevance, in which a conclusion is suggested based solely on something's or someone's origin rather than its current meaning. The suggested rationale is one of guilt by association. Its name is a variation on the term reductio ad absurdum.

It is not the first time that someone has compared equal rights advocates to fascists or nazism, but merely another example in a long line of accusations.  The arguments are ridiculous and those who use reductio ad Hitlerum are using poor fallacies because they are so uneducated and unable to make a credible argument.  All they want to do is rule people up by using the comparison to fascism.  Vladimir Putin recently did that to describe the Ukrainian government in order to invade the Crimea.  The use of such fallacies can also be called argumentum ad Nazium a variant derived from argumentum ad nauseam, meaning arguing to the the point of nausea.

If Rick Wiles wanted to compare LGBT advocacy groups to the Nazis, he picked a horrible comparison.  LGBT groups, and all equal rights groups, want equal rights for all, someone that Hitler and his followers never came close to believing in. 

Thursday, April 10, 2014

"THE DAILY DISH" BEING A BLOG FROM THE PEN OF ANDREW SULLIVAN

i have enjoyed reading this particular entry in Uncle Andrew's blog several times and the often needed hearty laughter it engendered.  I hope you enjoy it and can enjoy laughing at ourselves.  It's not obligatory. . . . .;-))

Justin
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The NYT just ran a piece on the apparent disfavor the word now has among some homosexuals. I have a pretty good guide to figuring out what to do with such a question which is to check out what GLAAD is saying and believe the opposite. As a writer, there are few things that piss me off more than being told which words I can and cannot use. Fuck that shit. (See? It’s good to have a blog.)
The impulse, sigh, is political:
The Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation, or Glaad, has put “homosexual” on its list of offensive terms and in 2006 persuaded The Associated Press, whose stylebook is the widely used by many news organizations, to restrict use of the word.George P. Lakoff, a professor of cognitive science and linguistics at the University of California, Berkeley, has looked at the way the term is used by those who try to portray gays and lesbians as deviant. What is most telling about substituting it for gay or lesbian are the images that homosexual tends to activate in the brain, he said. “Gay doesn’t use the word sex,” he said. “Lesbian doesn’t use the word sex. Homosexual does.”
“It also contains ‘homo,’ which is an old derogatory,” he added.
But I like the term “homo”! I use it all the time – about myself and others, although I also often use “fag” as well. The gay thought-police would be aghast, but the intent is what matters. Mine is mostly benign. Mostly. But mainly, one great legacy of the gay community has been our love of freedom, especially of speech. For centuries and decades, the right to free speech was our only truly secure constitutional right. We were always about enlarging what was sayable, rather than restricting it. Banning “homosexual” also reeks of insecurity. We are not so tender we cannot handle a clinical, neutral term, or even a slur or the re-appropriation of a slur. “Queer” was one such reclamation, although that’s much more pointed than “homosexual” and certainly doesn’t reflect how I feel about my orientation. There’s nothing queer about being horny and falling in love or lust or getting married. They’re among the most common activities known to humankind. But I sure don’t mind others using it – and more and more heteros want to call themselves “queer” too. But my main objection to getting rid of “homosexual” is that we would lose a not-too-easily replaced non-euphemism.
We have too many euphemisms about our orientation and they bespeak the weak-kneed lameness that’s the real thing that should be fading away:
While the Times article notes that “scholars expect the use of the term to eventually fall away entirely,” it doesn’t really consider the problems that loss could cause. It’s worth noting that gay has contested meanings as well, and by my definition of that word—which, very generally, has far more to do with a historically and geographically specific constellation of aesthetic tastes, artistic styles and modes of relating than with genitals—there are far fewer gay people around these days than there are homosexuals.
One of Slate’s commenters went all Stoppard on us:
AE Housman: “Homosexuals”? Who is responsible for this barbarity?
Chamberlain: What’s wrong with it?
AE Housman: It’s half Greek and half Latin!
Chamberlain: That sounds about right.
When I wrote Virtually Normal, I had to decide on a unifying adjective. “Homosexual” seemed to me to be a way of reaching those who would read and hear the term as an indicator that I was not rigging the argument with pro-gay rhetoric. I’m fine with “gay”, and use it all the time. But persuasion is best done on neutral ground. Maybe the word has become less neutral since 1995. But I cannot think of a better one.
Still, while I’m at it, there is a “word” that seems to me worth retiring. Not by fiat, just by trying to avoid or ignore it. It’s the unpronounceable p.c. acronym: LGBT. God I hate that “word”. It describes no single person; it cannot be spoken easily; it reeks of bullshit.  No one started using that word of their own accord as a way to describe herself. It was created by leftists who believe that all oppressed groups are primarily defined by their oppression and that the very different lives and identities of gay men, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender are somehow all one. I know it’s an effort at inclusion. I appreciate the good intent. And if it had any wit or originality, instead of sounding like a town in Croatia, I could live with it. But it doesn’t.
So fuck that shit.

RELATIONSHIP IN BIG PROBLEM


                                                                            (nice hat. . lol )

Posted: 10 Apr 2014 05:25 AM PDT


 ( Gay Relationships: Advice Column By Dr. Brian Rzepczynski )
Dear Dr. Brian:

I have a problem with my partner. We’ve been together for 8 months now, but the last 5 have been constant fighting over my behavior and character.
He wants me to change and be more strong like he is, to stop being romantic and so emotional to the point I cry, to separate my personal and work lives, to not be influenced by others, and to be more talkative and have standards in my life. I have tried, but nothing seems to be enough for him. He’s talked about breaking up with me.I don’t know what to do anymore to please him and I don’t want to lose him. What should I do?"  
- Backed In A Corner_____________________________________________

Dear Backed In A Corner:
Thank you for writing and I am very concerned by your letter. After 8 months of being together, your relationship with your boyfriend is still very young and should be a time of discovery and fun as the two of you share experiences together to build a foundation as a couple. Instead, it sounds like your relationship has become dominated and defined by conflict and negativity and this is a serious red flag that should not be ignored.

While I’m only hearing one side of the story, I have some concerns for the way that you are being treated. While I do advocate for all of us to be striving for personal growth to better ourselves, it sounds like your boyfriend is doing a lot of dictating about how you “should” be. Having a strong character with good values and integrity is very important, as is good work/life balance, being assertive and communicative, and having a solid vision and life goals. His need to have you improve upon these areas might very well be appropriate, however how is he presenting this to you?

Is he supportive and encouraging or demanding and critical? Is he trying to control and manipulate you? Whose goals are these…yours or his? The thing that really concerns me the most though is his statement that he wants you to stop being romantic and emotional. If this is an inherent part of who you are (there is absolutely nothing wrong with being romantic, passionate, and prone to crying), it is unfair for him to judge you and try to change these aspects that are core to your identity.

Is it possible you’re dealing with someone who is controlling and narcissistic? You will also want to examine your role in some of the problems in the relationship so you can take responsibility for your part in the fights and make those changes as needed. However, with the last 5 months having been characterized as “constant fighting”, I’m also worried that there may possibly be some emotional/verbal abuse occurring and this is never a good thing as your self-esteem can take a hit and it is extremely disrespectful and demeaning. If you do the same thing back to him, you’re perpetrating as well and are only serving to reinforce the dysfunction.

Tread very carefully, my friend. There are a lot of warning signs here that indicate this might not be such a healthy situation to be in. If your boyfriend wants to break up, it’s important that you validate for yourself that you deserve to be with someone who will treat you with positive regard and unconditional acceptance. Try to take stock of the lessons you learned about yourself and relationships and grieve your loss of him so your next partner choice will be more compatible with who you really are and want. Take the feedback you’ve heard from him and others about your behavior and decide for yourself what your strengths and weaknesses are and what traits about yourself you’d like to change for the better. Make yourself as “dateable” as possible and focus on building a stronger identity and self-esteem.

If you and your boyfriend discuss continuing to remain together, it’s important to remember several things. First, the two of you will need to improve your communication and conflict management skills and tolerate anger and frustration better. It will also be important for the two of you to create separate lists of what each of your negotiable and non-negotiable needs are for a partner and relationship and share these with each other. If either of you is unwilling to work on any non-negotiable needs that are identified, the relationship will likely perish and this should then alert you to not invest any more energy into it to avoid any more pain that would surely result.

It is critical that you be honest with yourself about what your true values are and never sacrifice your beliefs, values, and ideals just to stay in a relationship with someone. You’ll be giving up personal power and setting yourself up for a codependent relationship in which your needs will always be undermined and you’ll lose your sense of self. If your values don’t match, there will likely be ongoing conflict and tension and is a sign that this probably is not a good fit. The two of you would also benefit from seeking the services of a licensed counselor for both individual and couples therapy. 

So take good care of yourself. The worst thing you could do in this situation is to ignore the warning signs and do what he wants you to do just to pacify him and hang on to the relationship.

Also take a look at what your fears about losing him are really all about and work on building your confidence and independence. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and to be able to be who you are; otherwise, that’s not really love..that’s control.

It truly is better to be alone than trapped in a relationship where you’re not honored for who you are and made to feel “less than.” All the best to you with your decision-making.

© Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, The Gay Love Coach
( The suggestions and feedback offered in this column are but one perspective of multiple approaches to dealing with problems or challenges. Information provided in articles and advice columns should not be used as a substitute for coaching or therapy when these services are needed. None of this information should be your only source when making important life decisions. This information should not be used for diagnosing or treating a particular problem, nor should it take the place of a consultation with a trained professional. It is your responsibility to consult a professional prior to making any life decisions. )
Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, contributing author to GAYTWOGETHER, is one of the leading love coaches for the gay community. As a licensed dating and relationship coach, Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, DHS, MSW has over 18 years experience as a psychotherapist and life coach specializing in helping GLBT individuals and couples develop and maintain successful and fulfilling intimate relationships. He holds a doctorate degree in human sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality and a master’s degree in clinical social work from Western Michigan University. He also runs a successful private therapy practice, Personal Victory Counseling, Inc. http://thegaylovecoach.com
 Love and pride Fashion

Thanks BRIAN  abd MICHAEL@gaytwogether.com

GARY RECIPES

This link opens to some interesting breakfast foods, among others.  Enjoy

G'day JustinO,
I noted that J asked me to contribute a recipe. Talking about food is a sore point cos I don't have my dentures yet, and won't till this damn exposed bone in my gum gets better, which is taking AGES. So it's mush I'm having for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Bleh.
However, I am looking forward to eventually getting back to normal food and one of my ab fabs is the humble Jaffle. We call 'em Jaffle irons cos that was the brand name of the first irons in Oz. But I think the brand in the US is Toastie. It's a cast iron or aluminium, double handled camp iron that makes pies, toasted sandwiches, etc. But you can use them on a stove top just as well.
Rather than provide a recipe, I thought I'd pass on this web address of a Jaffle site that lists oodles of recipes, mostly simple and easy, that sound deeeeeelicious! The one I can't wait to try is for easy hash browns. But there are heaps of others too.
Bon appetite! http://worthingtonsu.tripod.com/Jaffle_Iron_Recipe_Handout.htm
Gary

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

WHO'S COOKING DINNER


Here is an easy prep for dinner if you are at all handy in the kitchen.


Tilapia ScampiIngredients

-- 3/4 cup butter
-- 1 1/2 teaspoons lemon juice

-- 8 cloves garlic, halved

-- 4 (6 ounce) tilapia fillets, rinsed and patted dry

-- 1 tablespoon dried parsley

Directions

  1. Preheat an oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C); prepare a baking dish with cooking spray.
  2. Combine the butter, lemon juice, and garlic in a microwave-safe bowl; heat in microwave in 10-second increments until the butter is completely melted and the garlic has softened, stirring between each session, about 1 minute total.
  3. Arrange the tilapia in the bottom of the prepared baking dish; pour the butter mixture over the fillets assuring they are all evenly covered. Sprinkle the parsley over the tilapia.
  4. Bake in the preheated oven, turning the fillets every 10 minutes, until the fish flakes easily with a fork, about 40 minutes total.
Add your favorite pasta or baked potato with steamed vegetables.
Tilapia Scampi - Nutritional Information - Amount Per Serving  Calories: 483 | Total Fat: 36.8g | Cholesterol: 153mg

A crisp fruity lightly chilled chardonnay adds to the 'festivity' of the evening. . . .ehyah.

Note:  If you are fussy where your fish comes from, try to avoid "farmed in a pond" fish.  Never quite sure what the fish are eating from 'the pond' in captivity.
Ocean fresh is always best.   ~~ justin

Starting New Gay Relationship . . .. . .part 2

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Posted: 08 Apr 2014 05:25 AM PDT
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Nurturing new relationships takes time and effort. Let's look at two uncomfortable issues that can come up: arguments and sexual interest.

Perhaps you're home with Mr. Right and you have your first argument.Nothing too serious, but it's hard not to feel unsettled. What's going on here?

A piece of advice many couples have found works for them is: never go to bed angry. Stay with the argument until it gets resolved instead. Conflict can make you anxious when a relationship is new, but don't shy away from speaking your mind.

Relationships where one or both partners avoid showing their true feelings in disputes with one another are relationships that aren't going to last.
See if you can let your partner express what he's feeling upset about without getting defensive. 

Acknowledge that you've heard what he's saying; if you think he's right, say so. If you think he's off base, let him know. Understand that relationships require compromise.  The optimal outcome isn't likely to be your partner unconditionally surrendering because you've out-argued him; the best outcome is going to be something that leaves each of you feeling well-heard and respected, and the issue in question moved toward resolution.

Maybe the biggest mistake partners make is believing "I know what he is thinking." You don't - at least not until you ask him. You think his lack of interest in sex last night meant he's getting bored; maybe it just means he's tired.

Don't make assumptions. Ask your partner what he's thinking or feeling.
In fact, taking a few minutes regularly each week to check in is great practice that can deepen relationships. Even ten minutes apiece to ask one another, "How are you this week?" can lead to better mutual understanding, greater closeness and more opportunity for intimacy.

Another difficult issue for couples moving beyond the newlywed stage is sexual interest. When you are dating, sex with your new boyfriend feels pretty special. After a while you will get to know every hair and freckle on your partner's body, and the novelty of sex will wear off.

Life's other demands can crowd out lovemaking. Most of us aren't all that eager for sex after working long hours and knowing we've got another exhausting day ahead of us tomorrow. Throw in household chores and a hundred other distractions and sex can get pretty stale before you know it.

It may feel unromantic to schedule date night together, but doing penciling it in your schedule is a lot more romantic than watching another week go by without making enough time for one another.

Some couples create routines or rituals that work for them: Friday nights are strictly for the two of them, no intrusions permitted, or Tuesday evenings are the night to cook a special dinner together rather than rely on the usual quick meal after work.

Keeping sex passionate requires paying attention.

When you are first together, the sex may be so hot it's hard to believe things will every cool down - but they probably will.  The frequency of lovemaking often slows down after a few months, but the satisfaction both partners receive from sex can increase as they learn more about how to turn one another on.

Take time to start your relationship off on the right foot and you'll like the results.
John R. Ballew, M.S. an author and contributor to GAYTWOGETHER, is a licensed professional counselor in private practice in Atlanta. He specializes in issues related to coming out, sexuality, relationships and spirituality. If you have any questions or comments you can submit them directly to GAYTWOGETHER or John R. Ballew, M.S. - www.bodymindsoul.org.


THANKS, MICHAEL@gaytwogether.com

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

INTRO: MICHAEL J. O'LOUGHLIN. . . article from HUFFINGTON POST recently. . . .



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Lay Catholics Leading Fight For LGBT Equality

Posted: 06/08/2012 12:48 pm


June is designated as pride month, a time when LGBT people across the world celebrate the gains made in society and continue fighting for equality. Lots of groups and companies get in on the action, some to show solidarity and some to make a buck or two. One group that has been at the helm of the fight for gay equality in the US is the Roman Catholic community.
Come again?
The Catholic Church's official stance on same-sex marriage is widely known. The US Conference of Catholic Bishops has elevated the defeat of same-sex marriage to high status; the Knights of Columbus ranked among the largest donors in overturning marriage equality in California; and Catholic bishops in Minnesota spent considerable resources producing and distributing anti-gay marriage DVDs throughout the state. Cardinal Timothy Dolan, as Archbishop of New York and president of the USCCB, does not shy away in denouncing Catholics who stray from the party line. Despite all this, lay Catholics have been leaders in the fight for equal rights for gay Americans.
The battle for same-sex marriage has been fought largely at the state level, and of the nine states that have or have had same-sex marriage rights (same-sex marriage laws in Maine and California were repealed), six were adopted through the legislative process. Five of those six laws were signed by Catholic governors: John Baldacci in Maine; John Lynch in New Hampshire; Andrew Cuomo in New York; Chris Gregoire in Washington; and Martin O'Malley in Maryland (Vermont's legislature overrode the veto of Gov. Jim Douglas, a member of the United Church of Christ). Some of these governors faced harsh opposition from local Catholic bishops and lobbying groups, but O'Malley and Gregoire both said explicitly that they were motivated by their Catholic faith to support marriage equality.
At the federal level, as well, Catholics rank among the most ardent supporters of gay marriage. When the United States Supreme Court struck down sodomy laws in 2003 in the case Lawrence v. Texas, it was a Catholic, Anthony Kennedy, who wrote the majority opinion for the Court. A Catholic vice president, Joe Biden, went on national television and came out in support of gay marriage. A few days later, his boss followed suit.
It's not just the elites who are leading the way. Catholics support same-sex marriage at higher rates than any other Christian group, including all mainline Protestants, Evangelicals, and Mormons. A recent Pew survey found that Catholics support gay marriage by a margin of 52 percent to 37 percent, up from 2010, when 46 percent of Catholics favored marriage equality.
Catholic sisters, the beleaguered women who historically have run the social justice institutions that have served so many Catholics and non-Catholics alike, have quietly supported gays and lesbians for decades, perhaps leading to a recent crackdown by church officials. Even if not challenging bishops, these women so often act as the pastoral face of the church, offering much needed pastoral support to those on the front lines of this culture war.
More quietly, at the most personal levels, gay Catholics and their families find support in the church from brave priests, monks, and lay ministers. A few Benedictine monks, living humbly and quietly in New Hampshire, have privately offered their solidarity and prayer to me over the years. This gentle love and devotion to the Gospel commandment of treating others how you wish to be treated may be off the radar and away from public consciousness, but it is a lifeline to those who feel marginalized, alone, and even angry.
Pope Benedict has called gay marriage a threat to the future of humanity, and the Catholic Church in the US remains a powerful force against same-sex marriage. Its ordained leaders are entrenched and buoyed by a faction of vocal conservatives. But this is not the case for ordinary Catholics, the everyday women and men who love their gay sons and daughters, nieces and nephews, friends and coworkers. And it is not the case for many lay Catholics who hold positions of power in state and federal government.
Catholic bishops and priests in the US have planted the seeds of social justice for generations. Increased support for gay marriage among lay Catholics and elected officials is the harvest.
 

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