|Week 3: Taking Care of Yourself |
|Welcome to the third installment of your "Partners In Life" 5-week e-program brought to you by The Gay Love Coach: Man 4 Man Coaching Services™.|
|You can best take care of yourself by being responsible for getting your own needs met.|
|In addition, you are not helping yourself, your partner or your relationship if you are so solicitous of your partner that they do not need to take responsibility for getting their needs met.|
|You can practice mutuality by asking your partner to cooperate in meeting your needs, and by responding cooperatively when your partner asks you.|
Taking care of yourself means not mind-reading your partner or anticipating his or her needs, and not expecting your partner to mind-read or anticipate your needs.
Do not try to make life "OK" for anyone but yourself, and do not expect anyone to make life "OK" for you. Realize only you can make yourself happy.
In addition, taking care of yourself means making it a priority to maintain a balance in your life between your own needs, and the needs of your partner, children, employer, etc.
Relationships fail when a partner lets their needs, values, goals, and interests fall by the wayside, only to resent and/or regret it later.
|A Guide to Getting It: Purpose& Passion, co-authored by Brian Rzepczynski, MSW, The Gay Love Coach™. It is available for purchase here. |
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