This post first appeared on Justin Dunes in November 2009. Often enough when Blogger posts stats and comments about blog contents this article is shown as one of the most frequently visited pages on JustinDunes . I looked it over again this morning and decided to "Play it again, Sam". . .and see what you may be thinking on the topic today. So please, feel free to express your own feeling and ideas about this and similar topics. Thanks. justin
REGULAR GUYS. . . . . .
so, GUYS, what do you make of this notion? An actualized program for "ordinary guys", , gay/bi/what-have-you? Check it out and share your thoughts with the rest of us. I know, for me, this is a forum which helps me broaden, re-assess, change my thinking about issues. We need 'guy talk' to help us vent ideas and feelings and inter-relate with others. Thanks.
"In the 22 years I've been reading personal ads, I've never once read one that says, 'GWM seeks bitchy queen for LTR.'"
In other words...
There's more than one way to be gay!
Why a group for masculine guys?
Most gay men find masculinity attractive (Check the personal ads if you have any doubt.) Yet gay culture assumes that we all grew up "different", that we’re "sisters under the skin". This leads to one of the paradoxes of gay culture: a lot of men who ridicule "traditional" masculinity (which they equate with repression), even as they lust after Troy Aikman or Ben Affleck. Yes, campy bitchiness can be a valid option (it’s a free country), but it doesn‘t come naturally (or seem very attractive) to a lot of us
We don’t all have the same interests. Camp, drag, & divas are as foreign to some of us as football and car repair are to others. There are many masculine gay guys who can’t relate to gay culture. We frequently have a very different "take" on what it means to be both a man and gay man. We often are not connected to the gay community, which, in turn, tends to view us with some suspicion (they say we’re "not gay enough"; we’re "repressed"). Well, we think you shouldn’t have to apologize for having a masculine slant.