Over the several years, especially in our group sessions, this question was raised many times: Now, about all this business. What happens if you fall madly in love with a client? How do you distinguish between that person being a lover as well as a client?
This time it is raised by our friend Gary. Good question. Fall madly in live with a client?
How about this? Love is a decision and a choice. I may be out of my mind attracted and aroused by someone. . . . I don't think I can control myself. . .I've got to have him. That is not love; it is lust. . .which is cool. . ..well, rather, hot. . . wicked hot. But it isn't love.
We only love someone we know. . . .because knowing someone takes time. . .sexual arousal, attraction, desire, passion happen instantly. . . .most of the time and have little or nothing to do with knowledge.
So if I am an honest, ethical man, and I find myself sexually attracted to a client
I will recuse myself and transfer him to another therapist. I could hardly be able to remain objective in therapy and be if any real help to him.
Knowing someone also engenders care and respect. . . .seeing someone as he really is, not as I desire him to be, and caring for what is best for him, not for my need or passion.
Professional ethics stresses the need for discipline in our conduct and interactions with clients. Self-control is possible and even desirable! ;-) I guess this is sufficient; you get my ideas.