I have a friend who married his college sweetheart - after a gap of over 30 years! They never really lost touch but lived in separate states and headed in different directions. About a year ago they got together, fell in love again, and six months ago decided to marry. They're now in their mid fifties. And, yes, there's baggage as my friend is discovering. But they're working it out.As they say, you never really know someone until you're both living under the same roof.
I think we all have misgivings about being in a relationship. Like "How can I ask him to tolerate me? Why not have mercy and cut him loose?" But I wonder if those thoughts will help keep us from taking the other guy for granted.
Coopsta, you posted the same idea yesterday, and prior.While it might keep us from taking someone for granted, I guess I would begin to wonder what that stance is "doing to me. . .where does it come from? Is it the main thought in my beginning/ and ongoing relationships with others/ many others.While such "humble retisense" [spell???] might keep me attuned to another. . .but it also might prevent me from trusting I am worthwhile-enough to even enter into a relationship with anybody. . . see what I mean?It is kinda like a two-edge sword. . .helps me respect others, etc. . .AND prevents me from entering into many [any?] varied deep warm relationships with anyone at all.
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