Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Justices could toss California gay marriage case on procedural issue

By  | The Ticket – 3 hrs ago. . . .
oQween Amar of Orlando, Fla., left, dances as demonstrators gather outside the U.S. Supreme Court in Washington. …

Friends. . . .Perhaps when you get past this photo, you may care to read what the Justices had to say. . . .a least a BIT of what they were saying.

On a personal level, I try to be tolerant but I really do object to our lives as GLBTQ people personified by exhibitions such as this.  Maybe I am a snob, , ,so be it. . .some of us New Englanders tend in that direction, it has been said. . LOL. .
but a characterization such as this, to the eyes of those who do not understand us, and. . ..well you know the prejudice. . . This kind of stuff does not make me proud; perhaps - I don't know yet totally. . .what to think of this kind of exhibition.  Qween Amar does not personify what it means to be GL. . .and certainly I'd say the majority of us do not identify with this. . .We do not want our lives to be thought of and classified as this kind of  disrespect and disparagement of Women.  I do not want those who are against us. . .and legislators in African countries who are trying to pass and enforce the death penalty against any form of homosexuality to use performances like this to support and help pass their evil intents.  They will see this and use this performance on the steps of the Supreme Court of our country potentially to do Gay and Lesbian men and women a great deal of harm.

This kind of exhibitionism does not portray the essence and struggle of being Gay or Lesbian.  This is not the aim and goal of Transgendered People in all they suffer and endure in their efforts to be who they are in the deepest part of their being.

Maybe, just maybe, this is not the time for "Marriage Equality".  Why not?  Could it be that WE are not ready for Marriage Equality.  The People of Vermont started this ball rolling for Marriage Equality with their first-in-the Nation passage into law of Civil Unions.  That was hard-fought for victory of Gay People.  And even that victory was covered over by a governor who missed an opportunity to really Celebrate Our Existence. He chose a private signing of this Bill into Law in an almost-closet in the State House, with one or two people as witnesses.

I hope no one is offended by or takes any of what I say personally.  My intent is never to hurt anyone.  I am a few weeks from defending my dissertation thesis before the faculty of the College of Medicine and the Department of Psychology.
The first principle in the healing profession and Hippocratic Oath is "Primun non nocere aliquem. . . First never to hurt or injure anyone."  I hope to be true to my Oath.
                                                                    ~ justin o'shea


Richard said...

Justin, couldn't agree with you more. My first thought when I saw the picture was "Oh my God, not again".

I have a straight female friend with whom I carry on an almost daily email correspondence. Althought she is most sympathetic to our cause, she has frequently asked me why so many gay men feel the need to be outlandish in public. I've tried to explain Stonewall and the drag queens to her as a rationale, but even I know that is a hollow excuse. It's long past time to grow up, boys, and take your place as respected citizens.

JustinO'Shea said...

And well we know, Richard, that to be respected one must be respectable. . . .;-)

Gary Kelly said...

Exhibitionists are a minority within the GL minority. They are not representative but grab media attention because media focus is not necessarily on what's representative. Media looks for sensationalism, for the unusual, for anything that gives a story "an angle". If a cop bashes a gay guy at the Sydney Mardi Gras, it's not the 100s of thousands of spectators having the time of their lives that makes the headlines, it's the cop bashing the gay guy. That's why I haven't bought a newspaper in 25 years.

If Qween Amar is representative of what it means to be GL then it follows that Pastor Fred Phelps is representative of what it means to be Christian, or that Quasimodo is representative of what it means to be straight.

But before you blame the media for being sensationalist keep in mind that all they're doing is following the principles of supply and demand.

For that matter, so does the Gay Mardi Gras.

Frustrating, isn't it.

JustinO'Shea said...

yep.. .tis. . .;-)

GreginAdelaide said...

Yep, I could not agree more with all that you guys have said.

I've said it here before.... whilst they may have the best of intentions, the gay exhibitionists do the majority of us a grave disservice.

They totally have turned me off from going along to any public gathering to lend my (normal) presence in support of the changes.

Better to keep the gay-parody stuff for celebratory gatherings, not when "we" are trying to get a point across and effect change!!!!

Why don't they just get it?

Coop said...

I agree with you Justino. I cringe at the thought of Pride week every year for the same reasons.
Am I proud to be Queer? Yeah. Would I do something I'm not proud of in the name of celebrating my identity... letting people know we're here? Hell NO.
It's time the non-exhibitionists became visible as the productive members of society at large. We're EVERYWHERE.

I didn't know how the governor of VT signed that legislation. I would have done it the same way. LGBT people want equality under the law. Last time I checked we didn't want special attention.

Richard suggested a valid reason for the exhibitionism. Justin and I, however, are of a different generation. The environment for us is much different. We're here, we're Queer and we're everywhere.

JustinO'Shea said...

D'accord, Coopsta. Yepper!

Gary Kelly said...

Greg: Why don't they just get it? Because the nature of the exhibitionist beast is to be highly visible.

And Coop? How does a non-exhibitionist become highly visible? Hehe.

BTW, how do you spell conundrum?