This post first appeared on Justin Dunes in November 2009. Often enough when Blogger posts stats and comments about blog contents this article is shown as one of the most frequently visited pages on JustinDunes . I looked it over again this morning and decided to "Play it again, Sam". . .and see what you may be thinking on the topic today. So please, feel free to express your own feeling and ideas about this and similar topics. Thanks. justin
REGULAR GUYS. . . . . .
so, GUYS, what do you make of this notion? An actualized program for "ordinary guys", , gay/bi/what-have-you? Check it out and share your thoughts with the rest of us. I know, for me, this is a forum which helps me broaden, re-assess, change my thinking about issues. We need 'guy talk' to help us vent ideas and feelings and inter-relate with others. Thanks.
 Mission Statement Why a group for masculine gay menStereotypes
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8 comments:
There are Questioning/ Gay teen boys out there watching Will &Grace, seeing gay male masculinity personified in Porn (emphasis on leather and mustaches), and the character in Legally Blonde who could pick out last season's Prada... These poor boys probably model themselves on that. How do I know this?? I'm talking about me.
Luckily, my college experiences intervened and let me form my own identity. Shannon, Justin, my fellows in online communities, and EVEN my str8 and supportive FRIENDS have helped.
How do I face the GAY community without shame though?
It was a great idea and we did a lot of wonderful things. It really helped me build myself as a man as well as accept myself as gay.
The club had it's management problems and is now gone, but I made a lot of lasting friendships from it.
I would be very happy to see this group succeed. Something like this can be a huge help to gay Men everywhere.
One area where I am most uncomfortable and and with which I do not identify is the whole annual Gay Pride days and parades. I do not want others to think "Justin is like that?!"
The antics I have seen and heard about which disgust me the most is denigrating, mocking, tearing down those who do not agree with us.
I know glbt folk have suffered much from uninformed church people of the various stripes. And I am opposed to their scare/threat tactics. . .and most of all opposed to the shame and guilt these types have fostered "in the name of God." [I can almost hear God saying "Don't blame me. Was never any of my doing!"]
As a Catholic gay man, I am piss-angered by sme of the tasteless antics in some places to denigate, disparage, mock, criticize religious beliefs. We acquire nothing by violence done to others.
Specifically I have in mind the profanity of missuing/degrading objects which people of faith hold
sacred. Examples: hunky guys with a crucifix sticking out of their speedos. Prayer beads prominently displayed on near-naked bodies simulating f''king and oral sex.
I mind seeing religious garments paraded mockingly, and effegies of pope and bishops shamefully mocked.
I strenuously oppose -- regardless of the charities they reportedly do--- the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence from San Francisco. The mockery of the thousands of American nuns,sisters religious wowmen is totally unconscionable.
I am ashamed to have people even think I might support and worse be like that!
In the films, documentaries, TV programs I have seen about the Civil Rights Movement never did I see any actions /antics used which tore down or disrespected anyone! I can understand African-Americans not wanting Gay Pride to be associated in any way with the Civil Rights movement. There are too many times when we GAY PEOPLE are our own worst enemies! If we want respect and acceptance then we must be ready to accept and respect those who think differently from us. Verbal and mocking violence gain nothing for us but what that deserves.
All I know of the Gay Festivities in the Land of Oz downunder is what I saw on Shannon's blog and a few alied video clips. I didn't see any of the poor taste displays I've seen here in the US of A. We don't even do such things at home in Provincetown, that Gay Mecca of the North East.
The example of being gay I have seen from Sydney, for example, and from Shannon in his blog and conduct. . .with these I can and do identify. I have come to love and respect the gay man Shannon as he shows himself to us in his blog and in his one-to-one contacts. Likewise, the examples I see here from guys who post on my blog make me glad to call you friends.
We are all different. . . and thank God for that. . . I just don't want to be lumped with the sleaze and tawdry crap of the pseudo gay community. Do I think I am better or superior to them? I hope not! But I will say I am different. Even if I were judged to be a cheap tramp I hope I'd be me with dignity and a bit of class! hahahahaaa
Here my 6.5 cents. . LOL
justin
I believe that gay pride should be no different to straight pride or any other kind of pride. Pride is not about putting the other guy down, it's about strutting your stuff. It's not about being negative, it's about being positive. It's not about being superior, it's about being equal.
And that's my 6.5 cents worth.
It helps my self-confidence.
You face me without shame, right? You face other guys without shame? We are all part of the GAY community.
WHY would you feel shame? Got any real reason? You do something mean, vile, vicious, violent, destructive, etc?
I hear you saying NO. OK, why do you feel shame? If you do, then it is your own choice. WHY would you choose to feel shame?
In a similar situation a buddy used to say "Can I watch?" Pissed me off. So I changed.