This is a good example of the "stinking thinking" in action which I was talking about with COOPS and GREG this morning in my comment added to those of the last article on relatiionships I posted. Check it out. Watch the facial/body movements/changes in Simon, audience, in Jonathan. . . ..This says so much more than a gazillion words on the topic. . . .justin
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Justin, how true!! When that kid opened his mouth to sing I was floored. Here's hoping that he doesn't burn out. BTW, and a little off your point, the Boys Aloud group from Wales is pretty terrific as well.
Thanks, Richard. Will check 'em out.
Pardon my cynicism but I think the whole thing was staged... even Jonathan's false start. However, with a voice like that, the kid doesn't need anything else.
Of course it was staged. . . it is a "staged production". . .LOL
But did you get the point I was trying to make in posting the "staged show". . . .?
You mean Coop's nonsense about being considered worthless, and your rationale about 'stinking thinking'? Sure I got the point. But if you allow compliments from others to make you feel good, should you also allow criticism to make you feel bad? Do you accept one and not the other, or reject both? Interesting questions, yes?
This is reminiscent of the Susan Boyle performance. Sure, Cowell can be a heartless asshole, but he is no more cruel than the world these contestants aspire to join. And he knows how to make money in the music business. Thanks, Justin, for this beautiful experience.
Gary, that is not a good question/argument.
I choose what way I feel, well, I attempt to.
So, I can choose to be happy, flattered and whatever if someone pays me a compliment, just as I can choose to examine, weigh up the validity of criticism and either act upon or ignore and reject them, simple.
The criticism may be valid....and I can ignore or learn from it, mostly I learn from it, I hope.
But just because I choose to accept one does not in any way mean I am bound in any way to accept the other. They are totally unrelated.
Chalk and cheese.
It is all about my own choice.
And Coop must make his choice.
I treat such things as I do anything that stresses me.
If I can change or act upon whatever it is and eliminate the stress, then I do it. If it is something that is beyond my powers to change or eliminate, then there is no point in worrying about it, no future in brooding over it, churning it over.
Forget it, move on.
Sure, easier said than done, but with practice is becomes easier.
I know.
Life is too short and precious to be worrying over something that you cannot change, something that has or might or will happen that you are powerless to change/prevent.
Move on and find the good in it.
My 2cents worth.
Perhaps you're right, Greg. I'm just tossing around a few thoughts because I have been and still am the victim of stinking thinking.
I've been away over Easter and just saw Gary's last comment...and re-read the whole post.
I'm worried that I might ahve come across a bit agressive there...sorry, I didn't mean it that way at all. Sometimes I get a bit harsh in the way I put things when I'm a bit passionate or fired up somewhat...and I can read what I said the wrong way, in hindsight. So no offence was ever intended I was not "on the attack" ... but then you should probably have worked me out by now, I'm not an aggressive person.
Trouble is, I've posted this so late you might not see it now Gary, maybe Justin can give it a nudge to you? I'd hate anyone to have the wrong idea about me. (one of my per hates and phobias, to be misunderstood)
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