tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post6990157345002106147..comments2023-06-05T09:55:27.129-04:00Comments on JUSTIN DUNES: I am soliciting. . . . .JustinO'Sheahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07379283329949646000noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-10224954681490539982011-02-19T20:37:40.914-05:002011-02-19T20:37:40.914-05:00I like the check-list! Interesting! I think what h...I like the check-list! Interesting! I think what hits me is, there is much agreement with GreginAdelaide's words. The awareness of the human gestures, needs and responses can be different with every person. Experiences in the past may have brought about this kind of human communication, but a little like the 'blindness' 'J' speaks of too. One has to discover and understand, and then this can be a positive. Thanks.<br /> <br />Smiles, JCinmeforeverJCinmeforeverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14033591536046634983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-35678757418409085742011-02-17T08:56:00.213-05:002011-02-17T08:56:00.213-05:00Oh dear. . . You've given up? You're too ...Oh dear. . . You've given up? You're too young for that, Mister!<br /><br />I think our sexuality - not just sexercise - adds great color and beauty to who we are. . .hmmm. . how do I say this? Sexuality is always functioning in all our encounters. . seems to me we'd be terribly bland without it.<br /><br />Of course. . or Maybe you will counter by saying you're not talking about sexuality.. . but about sexual activity. OK. . but, can you really separate these two - ? <br /><br />Isn't it an issue of degrees of expression of self. . . ?JustinO'Sheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07379283329949646000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-33838084508267147972011-02-17T08:40:02.894-05:002011-02-17T08:40:02.894-05:00Good analogy, J. Thank you. ;-)Good analogy, J. Thank you. ;-)JustinO'Sheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07379283329949646000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-1838228005136717002011-02-16T23:43:03.385-05:002011-02-16T23:43:03.385-05:00At some time in the future, sex will disappear fro...At some time in the future, sex will disappear from the human evolutionary agenda. And when it does, relationships will be a lot simpler.Gary Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17947146717481835071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-15583513462605164112011-02-16T21:07:44.216-05:002011-02-16T21:07:44.216-05:00Hmmm....hard to comment.
Why?
Nothing there that ...Hmmm....hard to comment. <br />Why?<br />Nothing there that I'd disagree with. Nothing there that isn't obvious, common sense, to me at least.<br /><br />I'm not saying that I'm a clever-clogs, not saying that I am all-seeing, all-knowing either...but I guess the mere fact that you've found there is a need to vocalise these ideas and thoughts and "rules" in response to others means that there is a general need for perhaps education and enlightenment for others.<br />(Yes you have a career sir!..lol)<br /><br />Are so many people that "slow" that they can't work it out? Never will?<br /><br />Or is it that most of them have the basic idea and will just nod appreciativly as if they know while you are discussing/educating them...is it that they just need the confidence, the reassurance that these ideas, thoughts and reactions they have are on the right track? That they are "normal"?<br /><br />Possibly. Probably.<br /><br />I've had quite a few friends that have been well confused over their own emotions and reactions and find it hard to deal with as they are not sure if they are "right" or "normal" and acting appropriately. They are sometimes scared of the reaction of the other person if they do certain things, or if they bare their soul, speak their feelings...etc..so nothing is said and confusion reigns.<br /><br />Maybe people just need to be aware of the things that are appropriate and , like on the check list, Maybe they need to be reassured or reminded that there is more to 'the act' or a relationship sex than the wham-bam-thank-you-sir sex we see in porn movies?<br /><br />I think so.<br />Nervousness in the moment can make one forget to tread slowly, enjoy it, make it pleasurable for your partner. Perhaps the check list is just a reimnder, not a recipe to be followed whilst stirring the bowl (or licking it..heehee)<br /><br />Dunno if these random thoughts in response to your random collection mean much, but like I said, it was generaly all good logical common sense stuff to me.<br /><br />The biggest help anyone can give is at first an ear, then confidence that what they are feeling is "normal" and that they often have the solution or action in their mind but just need the confidence to carry forward..then to encourage communication, open considerate and measured perhaps, depending on the stage their "partner"is at.<br /><br />Like I said, I'm no expert, just been here a while and this is what I've learned, without scars..haha!<br /><br />I should proof read this, but nada, off the cuff is all the time I have today.<br />Cheers all,<br />GreginAdelaideAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-64647269925653349042011-02-16T20:55:04.047-05:002011-02-16T20:55:04.047-05:00I think it is like blindness. You have to take yo...I think it is like blindness. You have to take your time,feel your way emotionally and physically, and<br />learn how to read the braille.Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-9045054456082535872011-02-16T19:38:19.581-05:002011-02-16T19:38:19.581-05:00Good points, JIMM. . .spontaneous. . simple, real....Good points, JIMM. . .spontaneous. . simple, real.<br />:-)JustinO'Sheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07379283329949646000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-42817093565854715422011-02-16T18:17:29.374-05:002011-02-16T18:17:29.374-05:00hmmm... if im off subject let me know.
A 'ch...hmmm... if im off subject let me know. <br /><br />A 'checklist' attitude seems like a red flag. I think 'spontaneous' behavior/reactions builds on the attraction to one another.<br /><br />And gaining trust when you first meet someone you're interested in. It can come from revealing some small detail or life event about yourself, something you normally wouldnt share with just anybody. Does the new friend respond likewise?jimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13114255434616727257noreply@blogger.com