tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post5304398107655770545..comments2023-06-05T09:55:27.129-04:00Comments on JUSTIN DUNES: Freak OutJustinO'Sheahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07379283329949646000noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-56317325132828280222010-12-29T04:55:44.730-05:002010-12-29T04:55:44.730-05:00Intimacy freaks me out - always has. And I wouldn&...Intimacy freaks me out - always has. And I wouldn't have it any other way.<br /><br />To those who would say, "You don't know what you're missing," I would say, "Yes, I do."Gary Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17947146717481835071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-22762292560718541492010-12-29T01:43:20.730-05:002010-12-29T01:43:20.730-05:00J.. . in an article such as this one can describe ...J.. . in an article such as this one can describe symptoms. Nice and general. It would be arrogant to dare begin or describe therapeutic treatment in such a forum. That is one-on-one, based on the individuals bent. No one or two "cures" work for everybody. . .like a pair of corrective shoes. Even corrective shoes are highly personalized.<br /><br />To begin to recognize symptoms, admit them, could lead to healthy therapy.<br /><br />justin<br /><br />p.s. Freud still has something to say. . ..but the science has come a long long way since his beginnings.JustinO'Sheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07379283329949646000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-24626477274100879392010-12-29T00:06:28.340-05:002010-12-29T00:06:28.340-05:00There is something intellectually deficient about ...There is something intellectually deficient about defining this problem as one of fear, ambivalence or a defense against disappointment without exploring the causitive factors. One suspects the origin is more deep seated. I guess that sounds a bit too Freudian for modern psychology, but is the fear of intimacy rooted in shyness, some form of parental rejection, or low grade paranoia? I wish the author had addressed this, because describing the problem does little without providing a treatment.Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4517388058225414110.post-28110481933667189792010-12-28T19:38:45.852-05:002010-12-28T19:38:45.852-05:00Ya, there are those enounters with the "strai...Ya, there are those enounters with the "straights" that I've known. <br /><br />I've had more than a few mildly drunken and opportunistic 'close encounters' of the kissing and cuddling kind, and a bit of sometimes mutual fumbling with some of them, nothing more.<br /><br />They were close-ish friends some of them, and all are still are friends, some of them closer than back when it happened. <br /><br />All are now married or in long term relationships, they made their choices.<br /><br />Funnily enough, years later, some of them still give me a shy hug and another few give an occasional quick sneaky stolen cuddle or squeeze when people are around but no-one is looking.<br /><br />They want contact, they do feel for me, but can't either admit it or....whatever. Strange. But nice all the same when it does happen. And I don't spoil it either, ha! ...as much as I'd like to.<br /><br />Cheers,<br />Greg in fumbling AdelaideAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com