Matt Korman, University of Texas Swimmer, Comes Out As Gay In Email To Team
The Huffington Post | By James Nichols Posted: 11/11/2013 3:18 pm EST | Updated: 11/12/2013 12:00 pm EST
Until recently, University of Texas swimmer Matt Korman had kept a big secret from his teammates.
But the athlete finally felt that it was time to be his authentic self and decided to come out as gay through an email to his fellow swimmers.
OutSports initially received a message about what happened from one of Korman's teammates and the online LGBT sports site reached out to Korman to get the full story.
He told OutSports that he had already come out to his family and thought it was time that his fellow swimmers knew as well.
"I've been totally blessed by this whole situation because it's gone so well," Korman told the site. "I've gotten zero negative feedback. There were a couple guys who always throw around the word faggot and try to make every situation as masculine as possible. We have guys from the middle of nowhere conservative Texas. But they've been like, 'We're totally fine, you're still my friend and my teammate and good for you.'"
Korman joins the growing list of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) athletes who have come out this year, including Jason Collins, Robbie Rogers,Orlando Cruz and Brittney Griner.
Be sure to read the whole heartwarming and inspiring e-mail below and visitOutSports.com for more LGBT sports stories.
Guys,The last year has been a rather difficult one for me and I have spent a lot of time soul searching and trying to figure out which end is up. One thing in particular has taken me quite a long time to come to terms with, and I want to address it here and now because it's way past due.Within the past year, I have fallen into a state of depression, which has deeply affected my life. I have had a hard time sleeping at night, eating, and have lost a lot of interest in swimming. For the first time in my career, I was ready to quit swimming at the end of the summer. Not many people have noticed something has been wrong. The ones that did, I just blamed all the stress on my schoolwork, which has been my scapegoat. But, I miss sleeping at night; being happy and being the person I used to be when it didn't really matter. Although this has been something I have known for a while, it hit me particularly hard more recently as I have realized that I'm not getting any younger and would like to start dating and enjoy the simple things of life that I have been missing out on. When I was younger I thought I was only curious or it was just a phase for me, but have come to terms that I'm actually gay. (There, I finally said it)For a long time I tried to be someone that I am not. By opening up and talking about it I have learnt that this is normal and its okay to be who I am. I have accepted myself for who I am. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It is not something that I choose. It just is.Please know that I am telling you this about myself because I love you guys and I really want you to know this important part of me. I was growing tired of all the lying, dishonesty, and pretending. You all have always been there for me and supported me in everything that I do. You are and forever will be my brothers. I simply couldn't continue to hide this from you anymore because it was slowly killing me. I want you to know me for who I am. I pray that this will not change anything, but I know for some of you this is uneasy. I want you all to know that I am here to have an open dialogue. If you have questions or concerns please be honest with me as I am being with you. Do not hesitate to ask me questions if you have any (appropriate ones). I know this email has been a bit heavy and I apologize for that. All I can do is hope you will accept me for who I am and realize that I really haven't changed. I am still the same me.I love you guys & thank you for listening.Best,Matt
Good luck to him, I see a happier life ahead.
ReplyDeleteHmmm.... in the past I've told myself that I was glad I didn't come out publically. Especially when the AIDS crisis hit, I feel I would have regretted that decision terribly when the hatred and vitriol filled public perception of gay people.
For years I had no regrets being in the closet.
Now, I'm not so sure.
I think that if I was in my late teens now, in 2013, I would announce myself and live who I am.
I guess I don't regret keeping my mouth shut at the time, but just wish I'd been born into a different time, thigns would have been very different...and perhaps happier for me.
Ah well, whatever, move on and make the best of things... of what has been a good life, it's just that it could have been better, perhaps.
That's my morning thought, breakfast is over, time to get to work.
Greg, I too have felt the same as
ReplyDeleteyou, that is I wish I had been born in a different time. (more recent) It would have been much different. I never would have married, and know I would have been much more content and happier. The one's whom have
gone through hell of being gay, have been our warriors. Thank You
and God Bless everyone of you men
and women. I know That Justin has
in his own way, helped many, many
gays already in his lifetime.
Again, THANK YOU, THANK YOU. You
have much Love for your fellow
human beings. Recently I have heard (and know how very true it is) that the gays know what love is really all about. Indeed how
true it is.
Yes, being out in the '80s meant that you not only had to deal with being gay but also with the AIDS stigma of being a possible "carrier". Being gay today hardly raises an eyebrow by comparison.
ReplyDeleteNonetheless, when I look back it was no big deal really. You just handled it because you had to.
. .. like all the other realities in life. .. ;-)
ReplyDeleteI agree Coop, really I do. When I said "wish I'd been born into a different time" I guess I don't really mean that other than as rhetorical whimsy... not a "if only", more of an "I can imagine if I'd been born into today's world.
ReplyDeleteI am a realist after all... it was only a morning breakfast thought